Japanese Dating Manners
von ••SeKaSs · 27.07.2017
I know that is NOT typical of a Japanese guy, and that was a huge part of the reason we broke up, he had the idea that foreign girls are easy, like to show PDA etc, which I do not. The other two were very casual relationships, these guys told me they loved me on the first date, trying to get me to go to a love hotel with them. I got the distinct impression that they only wanted sex. Completely clueless as to Western culture, does not speak English, has never even been on a plane.
So needless to say he is the complete OPPOSITE of my ex in terms of how far and how fast he is going. He has never kissed me, and I don't know if that is normal or not. He has hugged me, will walk with me in public holding my hand that took a LONG time to get to Mostly we just hang out and talk, he will take me to "date spots" when we're alone, or we'll just go to dinner with mutual friends.
I don't think he's seeing anyone else but I also don't get the impression that he considers me his "girlfriend. I know very little about his past relationships, and I don't want to ASK I wouldn't even with an American man but I wish he would tell me if he had been hurt or something. A picnic in the park is considered quite romantic, especially in spring. Also, consider a round of karaoke.
Beyond displaying your vocal talent or lack of , the willingness to stand center-stage in a private karaoke box and possibly make a fool of yourself proves you are not too proud, a trait respected in Japanese society. Changing Expectations Be aware, though, that your date's expectations may depend on their age. If your date grew up in the s or early '90s in Japan, be aware that they grew up in a time when there was a lot of money floating around Japan.
They may expect more expensive locations, entertainment, and gifts. In the '80s, Japanese women came to expect luxurious presents as part of a date; the absence of such a gift signaled an absence of love. Times have changed, of course, and younger women don't usually share the same pricey expectations as their older counterparts. For the Non-Japanese Person Determining the proper dating etiquette in Japan is further complicated by the fact that you are not Japanese.
Your date may or may not expect you to behave in a "Western fashion," and be disappointed or confused if you do not. Likewise, they may try to act in a "Western fashion," believing this will make you happy. There is no easy way to negotiate the treacherous maze of cultural baggage. It may sound trite, but just being yourself will prove a lot less complicated in the end. That said, here are a few simple rules to follow in any situation.
Ignore the standard Japanese etiquette that all people pay equally when dining together; on a date, the man pays unless the woman indicates otherwise. If she insists twice, stop arguing. Ladies First Hold the door open for a woman and let her go first.